If you’re a couple that has a little trouble getting in the mood for physical intimacy whether it be from parenting, stress at work, stress in the home, deployment, a physical or health related issue, or any other reason I’ve got 5 tips to help you get back in the mood!
1st - let’s talk about Preliminary foreplay.
It Starts way before the moment of physical intimacy!
Try to avoid unnecessary arguments or hurting each other’s feelings, if you’re carrying either of these things, address them and move on.
Know each other’s love languages. For me, mine is acts of service... so if you take the trash out, make the bed or bring me some chocolate. .. I’m pretty open lol. If you’re not familiar with identifying yours or your partner’s love language you can purchase the book or take the quiz on their website (which I'll link below).
2nd - Clear the Clutter!
Clutter can be distracting, make sure you clear it from the bedroom or wherever you plan on being intimate. Nothing can kill a mood faster or make it hard to focus on intimacy than a dirty pile of clothes or food from the day before.
3rd - Light Up The Candles!
Turn off the lights, turn off the tv and set up some of your favorite candles. The soft flickering light and aroma relax you and make you feel good. They help signal to your brain that it’s time for loving.
4th - Throw On Some Music!
There are tons of playlist out there on platforms like Apple Music and Spotify that are perfect for setting the mood. My suggestion is to not just put on any music, but something like some classic R&B or Neo Soul, or even music that has no words so you can talk to each other or just hear one another breathing.
5th - Touch each other!
Don’t be afraid to explore one another and reconnect on outside first. You can spice it up by adding a nice massage oil like the vegan friendly oils Bedroom Kandi offers, or (if you’re feeling adventurous) use Bedroom Kandi's delicious Sweet Spot honey flavored foreplay warming gel to lick off of each other’s bodies.
The key is to be patient with yourself and your partner when getting back into the game. Don't put too much pressure on yourselves, try to relax and have fun!
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